In mythology, Lilith was Adam's first wife who fled the Garden of Eden when he made demands on her to be subservient. Her story describes the ways one's feminine expression can be distorted due to societal expectations, and also how one relates to their innate feminine qualities.
Astrologically speaking, Lilith gives us clues as to how we express and experience rejection, self sabotage and surrender. In a woman's chart, Lilith describes the native's most authentic expression of wild femininity. In a man's chart, Lilith describes the kind of woman he is secretly obsessed with, or the kind of woman he secretly fears.
The zodiac sign represents how Lilith is expressed.
The house represents the area of life in which this energy is likely to manifest.
Lilith in Aries/ 1st House
Aries Lilith is a fierce protector and defender -- in women’s rights, equality, sexuality. She expresses her unbridled passion through her body -- athletic, firey, sexy, assertive. People tend to view natives with this placement as a wild woman, strong, independent and free-willed. You are a wild initiator -- your approach to new projects, events or people is assertive, sexy and firey. Gains power through initial contact, but once the honeymoon is over, its over.
Lilith in Taurus/ 2nd House
Lilith in Taurus is a lusty, earthy vibe. Very feminine, very sensual and by that I mean embodying all the senses in everything she does. She is not afraid to get dirty -- literally. She loves to be outdoors, in the rain, loves nature the woods, the water, mountains and meadows... and this is true of both her sexual side and more practical, everyday life. She is the woman who exudes femininity no matter what she is doing, be it joining men on a construction site, ready to help build a house or baking a loaf of bread.
Lilith in Gemini/ 3rd House
Lilith in Gemini is witty, smart, seduction of the mind. Lilith here has an intense need for conversations or communications, which can be challenging for those around her. Loves to make people think; feels most authentic when she can journey (short distances), engages in intelligent contact/ dialogue. Shadowy Lilith here may have issues with siblings- for instance, may not share the same ideas when it comes to sexuality, authenticity or the feminine nature. With Lilith in Gemini/ 3rd House, Lilith will have a tendency to defend herself through words and or fleeing. An empowered Lilith will use her words wisely as a defense and get others to understand her position. In the bedroom, this Lilith placement is turned on by dirty talk, role playing and gender bending paradigms.
Lilith in Cancer/ 4th House
Lilith in Cancer gains power through emotions. She feels her most authentic self when she is in her own home tending to the needs of her loved ones. Lilith here is protective of loved ones, wants to nurture others and feels best when her needs are nurtured by others. The shadow or distorted feminine experience is expressed as the overbearing/suffocating mother, the mother who does too much for her loved ones, creating a strong dependence on her which denies the loved one the opportunity to learn how to self sufficient. Also, people with this placement may come off as shy or introverted, emotional or overly sensitive when it comes to sexuality. The truth is with Lilith here, sex is not just sex--it is an intensely emotional experience and they need their partner to want to connect with them. Lilith in Cancer/4th House can come off as a motherly type lover. There is a tendency to go overboard in satisfying her partner's needs. Conversely, if her needs are not being met by loved ones (either in the bedroom or elsewhere), the native may feel abandoned or neglected.
Lilith in Leo/ 5th House
Lilith in Leo feels most authentic when she is recognized as a fiery, passionate and playful wild woman. And indeed, natives with this placement are often described as the fierce and sexy lioness. She can be very self assured. She can be overly dramatic. But truly, she wants to be admired from afar, and if you get too close, be careful! She will devour you.
Lilith in Virgo/ 6th House
Lilith in Virgo is the purist. Many would think Lilith is confused here, as Virgo is the sign of the Virgin, and Lilith is the oft-described as the "Whore." But remember, Lilith's origin story was of the ancient Sumerian temple priestess, in service to Innana, the Goddess of sacred sexuality. We also forget the word virgin means "whole unto herself," and was used to describe temple priestesses in ancient times. Lilith in Virgo/6th House is the wild priestess in devotion to the Feminine Divine. Here, Lilith is a yoni tantra priestess, tending to her sacred temple (metaphorically and literally speaking.) This is actually a good placement for Lilith -- as the Virgo is complete and free to do as she pleases. And what she pleases is to be in service to her desires. She’d just rather do it alone, thank you very much.
Lilith in Libra/ 7th House
In this placement, Lilith gains power through relationships. Lilith in Libra attracts others, much to her dismay, but she really wants to be alone. Libra or 7th House Liliths are very beautiful creatures, and very smart. A native with this placement can run very hot or cold in relationships, may experience infidelity or have issues of codependency. Conversely, natives may be open to polyamory or open relationships.
Lilith in Scorpio/ 8th House
Lilith in Scorpio is a bit much for most people -- they view her as intensely intimate, a little scary. She is turned on by the taboo. She is not afraid of exploring darkness and may even be into BDSM or unconventional sexuality, sex surrogate, a sex therapist or a sex worker. Lilith in this placement feels most authentic through all things taboo, through sex, money and positions of authority.
Lilith in Sagittarius/ 9th House
Lilith in Sagittarius is the epitome of independence. She does not want to be tied down in any way shape or form. She needs freedom to explore, to think. She fights for freedom, equality and the right to maintain free will. Lilith here is the ultimate truth seeker -- She is not afraid to call you on your B.S. Nature is her religion (if she had a religion, that is!) In matters of sexuality, Lilith here embodies the unattached woman. She does not like long term relationships, choosing a free love lifestyle, instead. This is the kind of person who travels and has love interests at every stop of the way all across the globe. She enjoys this arrangement, and if in any one place for too long, may have a tendency to flee when she feels too hemmed in.
Lilith in Capricorn/ 10th House
Lilith in Capricorn has done it all, seen it all in her climb to the top. She is unapologetically ambitious, not afraid of challenges, opponents, taking on taboo tasks or of the steep climb. She also has no time for your shit, because she is hard at work on leaving a legacy. Honestly, she sees how you fuck off and she is basically not amused.
Lilith in Aquarius/ 11th House
Lilith in Aquarius can be overwhelmed by all her flashes of brilliance, which may make her seem a little flakey at times. Truth is she is not afraid to act on her impulses. She is energized by this. In the bedroom, she is the sexual revolution personified, but she can get bored very easily. Lilith in Aquarius needs intellectual stimulation, and will play devil's advocate for the sake of pushing boundaries. Lilith Aquarius/ 11th House natives are often described as androgynous. She feels most authentic when she can share her weird ideas with friends and lovers.
Lilith in Pisces/ 12th House
Lilith in Pisces is the secret fantasy woman. Sex with this native is very imaginative. She enjoys being around water, and everything for her is a spiritual experience. She enjoys sex as a metaphorical escape into the realms of the unknown. Lilith in Pisces/ 12th House may also deal with sex addiction, emotional affairs, and crave to be around artistic lovers.
You can find Lilith in your chart very easily. Simply go to www.astro.com, create your profile (you will need your date, time and location of birth) and then choose "Extended Chart Selection." Once there, scroll down to the "Additional Objects" and click on "Lilith" to include this point in your chart. Click on "Show the chart" and you will be taken to your natal wheel and table.